You know that little voice in your head that has so much power over you.  It says you can't when you actually can.  It says you look horrible today when you actually are beautiful everyday.  It is the voice that we create through years of failure, and judgement on ourselves and others.  I guess  we could blame a lot of it on our parents, but we are adults now and it it time to take responsibility.  My challenge for you is to quite the inner critic.  Free yourself of the barriers that this voice has created and love yourself everyday.  

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Frisky, I'm definitely an introvert. I always will be. But I can tell you that your exercise does work! I used to wait tables - which pretty much forced me to talk to EVERYONE! It really did get me past that extreme shyness. I'll have to get back to you on the rock climbing wall exercise. 
okay, please dont think i'm a total dork here, but these words have always felt like they're speaking to me, just like Jessie's post does. and i think they tie in perfectly to this specific discussion of the struggles we are all facing, including our battle with self-confidence. i find these words very uplifting and inspirational...

I can almost see it, that dream I am dreaming.
But there's a voice inside my head saying, "You'll never reach it"
Every step I'm taking, Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction, My faith is shaking.
But I gotta keep trying, gotta keep my head held high.
There's always gonna be another mountain, I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle, sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there, ain't about what's waiting on the other side - It's the climb
The struggles I'm facing, the chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down, but no, I'm not breaking
I may not know it, but these are the moments that
I'm gonna remember most, just gotta keep going
And I, I got to be strong, just keep pushing on...
Jessie, you always have the most encouraging things to say.  I just love it.

I'm a personal trainer who is going through my weight loss journey for a second time.  I could blame it on a bad marriage that ended last year or the fact that five days after my husband filed for divorce my dad passed away.  But the truth is that I made all the decisions that got me to where I am today.  And I'm the one who's going to make the decisions that will get me back to where I want to be.  The most amazing part of all this is that I am the happiest and healthiest that I have ever been.  I just opened my first personal training studio for women (which has been a dream of mine since I started training six years ago) and am feeding off the amazing feeling of helping other women through the same struggles I have been through myself.

Keep up the great work, Jessie!  You truely inspire so many people.  Thank you.
Frisky thanks for sharing, that's really appropriate for this discussion.  Nikki, congratulations on the studio....best of luck with it.  Check your messages.

PJ 
This is great, Jessie, and such a valuable subject. This is something I've been striving to overcome for quite some time- being responsible for ME in the here and now no matter what the past has presented. This site is great- thank you, Jessie for your thoughtfulness and inspiration.
Jessie,you are so far away, and yet, so close. That aside, your baby is finally sleeping.  He's cute, but powerful lungs - no offence.  This would be Auntie Nina.
Tara is looking forward to reuniting with you and your darling son.
I've been trying to do this for a LONG time and haven't quite accomplished this yet. It's hard believing in yourself when others don't, especially loved ones!

Clay - i agree, taking resposibility for ME is such a big part of this mental exercise; how in the end, we are the only ones truely accountable for our actions - or lack there of.
Sarah - you are so not alone, sister! and remember - WE believe in you! smiley-wink.gif

and OH MY GOSH!! Jessie has SOOOO been holding out on us!! A BABY BOY?? CONGRATS, JESSIE!! i'm sure he's just BEAUTIFUL!!  no wonder you've been so busy!!   Thanks Auntie Nina, for spilling the beans! tee hee hee!!

 

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