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That is so true Jessie! And so important. My parents always would tell me "patience is a virtue". I would roll my eyes. But I've learned that it can also help save your sanity. In an age of so much instant gratification it's hard to be patient but some things just can't happen overnight. Instead of being frustrated because change can take so much time it's important to keep on working at it. One day at a time - do your best to make good choices. Push yourself to do the things you might not like. And keep reevaluating what you need to change. Eventually it will become habit and you'll see the changes you want.
What's that old saying...it's the journey not the destination....we have all become so impatient....Debi you hit it on the head...instant gratification.  We have to realize this isn't something you fix in say six months then it's over.  This is a lifelong challenge to be healthy or exercise or lose weight, and the sooner we accept that we're in it for the long haul, then I think the rest of it will all fall into place.  This is a great challenge to really think about what we did to be where we are today.  As always, thanks Jessie.

PJ
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Wow.  You have no idea how timely your statement is. Thank you.
this kinda reminds me of what they always tell us about losing the "baby weight" after pregnancy: "it took your body 10 months to GAIN this many pounds, so give your body at least the same amount of time to LOSE it."  That approch DID give me some peace and i wasn't nearly as stressed about getting back to my previous weight when i looked at it from that angle. i suppose all aspects of our life could be handled this way, to a degree. it's definitely an interesting concept to ponder. sorta like that infamous "golden rule," but applied to ourselves: if we expect others to be fair to themselves by being realistic when striving to reach their goals, then we should allow ourselves the same courtesy. hmmm. that idea felt good to wrapp my brain around... *sigh*
thanks, Jessie
When I started training ten years ago and was very heavy, my trainer used to tell me (when I'd inevitably piss and moan about how slow the weight was coming off) "it took you 30 years to gain this weight- be patient." Great advice. Not always easy to keep in mind.
instant gratification reminds me of what the speaker said at my college graduation about how when we went to college the gratification that we felt wasn't an instant thing it took alot of hard work and determination to get there i think that what finally clicked this year about my weight loss it not going to be just a overnight thing i am going to have work towards it there are going to be ups and down but i want to change for good not just for a while 
it's been awhile since i've visited but once again you've hit the nail on the head...found myself tearin up as this is exactly my biggest frustration right now...bout to get ready for work(just one of my frustrations) but also need to absorb your words and collect my thoughts and i'll be back! thanks again for taking my thoughts putting them up front for me to face!
hey liza!! where've you been, stranger?? hopefully making time for yourself!!*winks*  stop in more often, wouldja????
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hi!! unfortunately if i was making time for mysef i'd be here more lol...been a pretty rough month..but working on getting myself back on track!i miss coming here and learning from y'all!
"just trust and let things happen"  love it!
 

Interesting that you should make that point, Jessie because I just started evaluating my eating; inspired to follow a more clean eating lifestyle and the one thing I keep saying is that it will take time to reprogram my brain, it will take time to see the number go down on the scale. In the meantime I am absorbing all the wisdom of Tosca Reno and learning to appreciate the wonderful taste of fresh food and the pleasure of creating my own culinary creations.

Very wise and inspiring words. Time plays its part in each persons life and sometimes we can get overwhelmed by it. There are thing that are out of our control and I've always believed that everything happens for a reason. Rather than constantly trying to control and make things happen, it's sometimes better to let things be and let life take its course.
Hey people,
I'm new here.
I like what Jessie has written, but I do disagree with one point he states. You can't just trust and let it happen. That's a bit like the misconception people have gained from The Secret (that if you think about what you want in your life, and keep it in mind, you'll manifest it). The 'secret' ingredient is that you have to actually DO something. You have to work towards your goal. The only point where 'trusting and letting it happen' comes into being is if you work towards the goal, and know that it is going to take time.
I write not just from theorising and speculation, but from practical experiences. Unlike a lot of people, I'm actually trying to GAIN weight (or muscle mass, to be more accurate).  I haven't hit on the combination that works for me, but I do know the frustration of not seeing results that would be encouraging. But I do keep trying, and trying to find the right mindset when things will click for me, fall into place, and have a deeper meaning and connection for me.
Thanks for the opportunity to comment.
Cheers,
Pete

Welcome, Pete!!
you've found a very cool site! have you introduced yourself in the intro section??  we'd love to hear more about you and where you are in your journey as of now!
and i liked your comment- a lot! personally, when i read JP's challenge i got the impression that he meant for us to "give ourselves a realistic amount of time to achieve our goals. and that by not doing so, premature discouragement might prove distructive to our efforts."  i never really felt as though he wanted us to simply "think" it into fruition. but that being said, some of the previous posts do appear to have heard it as you have, so who knows. but regardless, you do make a great point. we still need to remain PRO-ACTIVE in the pursuit of our goals. i have never read The Secret but have heard A LOT about it, and its kind of disconcerting to know that peeps may be adopting the "if you simply think it, it will happen" mentality. thanks so much for bringing your perspective and concerns into our little think tank!  the more insight, the merrier, true?? LOL!!

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