I have been receiving many emails asking me for help. I do wish I could answer them all, but unfortunately, some of the messages require more than just diet and exercise types. So I have decided to share with you a message I sent to my 9 clients during this years show (AYTSML). It may seem harsh at moments, but it’s the truth about obesity, it’s the truth about changing your life. I want everyone that watches our show to know that what these guys are taking on is much larger then them and it takes more then just exercise and diet. I hope you can use this message and apply it to your challenges in life. Enjoy.

Here you go:

We are all different and what works for one doesn’t work for the other, but we are all human and we all want the same thing: to be happy and to be fulfilled. I can promise you this, if you think for one second that going back to where you were will give you those feelings, you are gravely mistaken. You will soon find that all you where doing was covering up the truth. This doesn’t make you wrong, it makes you a living, breathing being, but you must keep trying to find what works for YOU – never give up, never be too afraid, too complacent, too closed up. Instead be open to solution, open to life, fearlessly willing to do whatever it takes. We all carry something we have to deal with, something that weighs us down, for you it is your weight and food is your drug. You will justify every reason for why things are the way they are, but this is you deflecting responsibility for yourself and for the ones that look up to you and love you. You will be everything but honest with yourself and the ones that are trying to help you because you have so much to protect, and those friends: guilt, shame, and remorse, (the ones you a have acquired through your addiction) really hate any kind of criticism. You will wake-up and have moments when you feel sooooo ready to take on the burden, much like you did at the beginning of this program, use those moments to at least make you feel as though you are in control again, but know that that voice that was created so many years ago will not go away. You may quiet the voice, but it will come back, it may get louder and louder and LOUDER. Statistics state that will go back to your old ways, but if you are like some of the few, you will know how to deal, how to cope, how to live with that voice and nurture that voice. That voice is your inner child, it is a part of you that must be cared for and loved, not ignored or pushed down. It is you, just a much younger version of you. If you are one of the few, you will find a whole new world before you. One that is not easy, one that comes with a whole different kind of weight, but one that you can feel good about, that will give you the chills when you think about where you’ve been and where you are, one that will bring a tear to your eyes and the eyes of others as they hear your story. This has always been your choice. This show doesn’t create miracles, YOU DO. Odd’s are you will go back to your old ways, but f$%^ the odds, f&*^ statistics, be one of the few.

When it comes to changing your life you have to change your routine and habits. Most of us know this, but don’t want to face it, especially when it comes down to the action of it all. It takes surrender and sacrifice, letting go of those things that we hold so close. Sometimes it’s a video game (Jack), sometimes it’s the right food rather than the wrong, and sometimes it’s a person, it’s all relative. Jack let go of the things that weren’t serving him. He showed how some hard work can not only get the weight off, but it can open many other doors, and the possibilities are endless. Here’s to Jack. You are the real deal buddy.

OBESE: A Year To Save My Life

Check out Jack’s story as he faces the fight of his life, his weight, his addiction to food and a habitual lifestyle that is sending him down the road to destruction. Jack’s story is one of amazing change and transformation, but it comes with great sacrifice and surrender. I hope you enjoy watching him as much as I enjoyed working with him. Remember to let us know what you think!

THE POWER OF “NO”

Ever since my son was born he has been teaching and re-teaching me all sorts of valuable lessons, and recently he reminded me of something that I think all of us need to remember: THE POWER OF THE WORD “NO”.   For example, I ask him, “Do you want some juice?”  He replies, “NO.”, it’s as easy as that, no hesitation, no remorse, just full commitment to the word.  Such a simple word, “No” yet if used properly it can silent a crowd, stop a person dead in their tracks, and liberate anyone brave of enough to us it.  We live in a “YES” world, big business thrives on “YES”, but in the long run we as consumers, as people and or health and wellbeing suffer. “YES” is easy, “yes” is why we are an (in every sense of the word) unhealthy nation and slowly becoming an unhealthy world.  Yes feels good, but No, comes with a cost, a different kind of responsibility than “yes”, and a different kind of sacrifice.  My son isn’t afraid to say “No” he just knows what HE wants and he isn’t afraid to reject any offers from dad, or of hurting someone’s feelings, just because he’s being true to himself.

Today, try to use the word “no” in your life.  Try to stand up for yourself and say “no”. When you want to go have another burger or purchase another item that really serves no purpose in your life, say “no”.  When you’re being mistreated, either by your own actions or by the actions of others, say ‘no’.  Just say “No”.  “No” could change your life; it could change the world.

Here are some ways you could use the word “NO” in your life.

1.  “Would you like to supersize that?”  (A) NO

2.  “Would you like to buy a second TV for 30% off?”  (A) NO (how many TV’s do you need.

3.  It’s a Thursday, you have a big day at work tomorrow and your friends ask, “hey, lets go out and have some drinks tonight”, you went out last Thursday, felt like hell the next day, you have no control over your alcohol consumption, but you love going out.  You want to say “Yes”, but the (A) “NO”

In the bible, it says, “Be still and know that I am God”  . . .by the way, I am a firm believer that all religions have a great message, so whatever your beliefs are, please read on.

“Be still and know” what a powerful message. Now it obviously doesn’t mean don’t do anything, don’t just sit and wait for things, but rather be patient, trust that the work and effort you are putting in is not going unnoticed.  Be still, do the footwork and then be still.   Allow your inner self talk, that constant chatter in your head to quiet down,  let the thoughts drift off without taking a hold, do whatever you have to do to come in to this moment, and stop thinking and doing constantly.

Do what you know is necessary, then be still.  If you’re trying to loose weight know that the training and nutrition that you’re already doing, are working, and if you are stuck in a bad place mentally, trust (be still) that everything will be ok.  Deep breathing is a great way to let go of the negative self talk, or the constant need to do something, and you will find you become peaceful, present, and ultimately more alert and energized.

Things are ever changing, nothing stays as it is, so you can trust that if you a do what you know you need to do, then all will be ok.  For my wonderful 9 clients on “A Year To Save My Life” in the UK and anyone who reads this, try to quiet your weary minds and know that things will be ok, as long as you are doing your best on any given day.

Be Well,

Jessie

Thank you Scott for inspiring this post